The Hook: Certified 100% Canadian Loser.

My name is Robert, but you can call me the Hook, everyone else does… and I am a loser. image

At this point some of you are thinking the following:

  •  “You’re not a loser, Hook!”
  •  “More self-pity from this guy? This is getting old fast!”
  •  “The Hook’s a loser? I can see that.”
  •  “Took you long enough to figure it out, Hook.”

Regardless of how you feel about my announcement, I am steadfast in my convictions. This was not a decision I reached overnight; I’ve been pondering my social standing ever since I emerged from the womb and was placed at the back of the viewing order in the observation room.

It’s all about politics, folks. If my mom had just shagged the delivery doctor I might have been discovered. (He delivered babies for a living. He had to have been into fat chicks, right?) And I’m not kidding about being discovered; one of the little cherubs in the front was spotted by a casting agent and went on to star in a bunch of commercials all through the Seventies before finally discovering weed and flaming out like a comet in the Eighties – if the comet was on drugs, that is.

That could’ve been me. Thanks, mom.

Life just got “better” from there. As a kid I once used a pair of scissors to pry my Batman radio out of the extension cord I ran from the laundry room in order to get it to reach my “Batcave” under the cellar stairs. Did I mention they were metal scissors? And that the resulting sparks gave my eyebrows a distinctive look that was all the talk of Power Glen Public School? Oh, and did I tell you my little electrical escapade shorted the house out causing my father to question my mother for hours as to whether or not I was truly his progeny?

Because all that happened.

Then my rep at school really took off once I discovered the effect females had on my still-developing-but-not-so-herculean form. Never in the history of romantic loserdom has a young boy struck out more. My idea of wooing our school’s prettiest gal (yes, it was the Roaring Twenties) the ultimate girl next door, was to tease her mercilessly. I even egged her house, and when he stepped outside at a most unfortunate moment, I egged her dad.

Needless to say, we didn’t wind up making The Beast With Two Backs, although at that time I had no idea what the hell that was anyway.

I got beat up by girls. (I wish I could say it was because my parents raised me to never strike the opposite sex.) Spit on by girls. Told to drop dead by girls. In fact, girls did everything to me but what I actually wanted them to. Then again, I truly didn’t know what I wanted them to do – but I knew they weren’t doing what girls normally did to boys.

Adding to my troubles at the time was the fact I was receiving A LOT of attention from two young ladies in my class. They were from the so-called wrong side of the tracks, wore tight clothing, more make-up than anyone, teachers included, in our school, chewed gum all the time, and came to my house in the evening to hang out with me in our basement while my parents stayed upstairs.

Yes, I am a complete and total moron, or to be precise, a complete loser, thank you very much.

blue_ghost_tunnel_1lOther kids got treehouses, I got haunted train tunnels…

My life trajectory has remained steady ever since. I went through the lower levels of school barely emerging from one disaster after another. When I left behind grade six at Power Glen School in St. Catharines the principal made the following announcement to the graduation audience:

“I literally have no idea what we’re going to do for Talent Night next year with Robert Hookey going onto grade seven at Westdale. Who else would be bold enough to run around in their underwear in front of the whole school?”

Yes, you read that right. There was a legitimate reason I did that – but that’s a dysfunctional tale for another day.

By the way, if you’re not familiar with St. Catharines, just picture Vermont – if Vermont stopped trying. But St. Kitts, as the locals in the Seventies called it when they were having key parties and drinking cheap wine, was actually a cool place to grow up. Not that I ever did.

My stint in junior high was interrupted by the implosion of my parents’ marriage.

And so my misadventures continued through high school where my anti-female vibe followed me, and thankfully, where I discovered Ginger Lynn. I had many “thrilling” escapades in high school: ill-timed erections (90% of them still are, truth be told) battles with bullies (that I always lost) and teachers who called me a slacker (a term I couldn’t be bothered to look up in one of those books that tells you what words mean).

b_e4c38cd015dda1ec6a7130fe0c03c464I never would’ve survived high school without this lady…

And onto college, where I ran afoul of:

  •  Substitute teachers who sought to encourage my literary talent – by suggesting I write for Hustler or Playboy.
  •  The Klan. (I kid you not.)
  •  Male classmates who wore skirts to school, ate toothpaste and Diet Coke for breakfast and who ate lunch in the student newspaper’s darkroom, while wrapped in complete darkness.

I still can’t believe any of us aren’t actually working in Canadian journalism. Then again, maybe it’s not such a mystery, right?

Since I graduated college with a degree in journalism that was worth… absolutely nothing, I drifted through a series of Joe Jobs (pumping gas is an honest day’s work even though the oil companies are as corrupt as the day is long) before finally landing the gig that would help define me as a human being: I became a Niagara Falls bellman. The modern-day hospitality industry is actually anything but, kids. As a Canadian bellman/loser I have been:

  •  Spit on. (And not just by kids.)
  •  Had a gun waved around in front of me in my first year. (From that moment on, I doubled up on the underwear while at work.)
  •  Shoved out of the way while attempting to board an elevator. On a daily basis. By grandmothers.
  •  Received death threats from guests. “I prefer gratuities, if it’s not to much trouble.” is my usual response.
  •  Walked into the lobby to be told a guest had urinated on the Christmas display. More than once. “That’s no way to treat Rudolph.” is my usual response.
  •  Been propositioned by more drunken cougars than a gay waiter.

As a bellman I’ve been thrust into the role of whipping boy – if it wasn’t already apparent – and so I’ve become accustomed to slugging mounds of travelers’ luggage around a thousand-room hotel only to receive a “Thanks, Boss!” for my efforts. If I’m lucky.


Fun Fact: In 2016, to the average traveler, the following counts as “luggage”:

  •  Laundry baskets.
  •  Plastic bags.
  •  Cloth shopping bags.
  •  Rubbermaid totes.
  •  Coolers. (With no booze or beverages, just clothes.)
  •  Small plastic garbage cans.  (Seriously, I’ve seen clothes shoved into a one of these.)

Just imagine dealing with these sorts of shenanigans on a daily basis. For nineteen years. Is it any wonder my self-esteem is virtually nonexistent? Speaking of which, it bears noting that I’ve only covered the highlights here; there isn’t space left on the interweb to cover the full depths of my loser status.

And speaking of my non-WINNING! status, the defining incident that led to this post involves my lifelong dream, which is made up of two elements:

  1.  Breaking through with my writing, in any form.
  2.  Writing for a show on the CBC, preferably one of my own creation.

I can say with absolute certainty that neither of these dreams will ever come true. While I genuinely love writing this blog, friends, I lay awake at night riddled with anxiety. I just can’t break through; the publishing world hates my guts (you’d think I’d slept with every agent and publisher in the biz). As for the CBC… well, their executives are obviously convinced I’m brain-damaged and so they either make me wait eight months before rejecting me with some convoluted excuse (“Our website clearly says keep your pitch brief.. but you were too brief. We wish you luck in your future endeavors – you poor, pathetic jackass.”) or they do it quickly but no less painfully.

(By the way, I’ll always love the CBC as a network and public entity. It’s in my Canadian blood.)

And so I’ve recently accepted and even embraced my status as an authentic Canadian loser. If you can’t laugh at yourself who can you laugh at kids? Well, besides politicians on both sides of the border, the Kardashians, travelers, etc. My point is, my dreams sustain me but accepting my reality allows me to survive.

I hope you’ve found this brief (okay, not really) look into my past and its effect on my present enlightening, friends. One last thing: I’ve been a dad for almost twenty years and a husband for twenty-two and I take a great deal of pride in both roles. Although, as you’ll see in a future post, I’ve brought my losing streak to those “jobs” as well.

But as that, as they say, is a tale for another day…

About The Hook

Husband. Father. Bellman. Author of The Bellman Chronicles. Reader of comic books and observer and chronicler of the human condition. And to my wife's eternal dismay, a mere mortal and non-vampire. I'm often told I look like your uncle, cousin, etc. If I wore a hat, I'd hang it on a hat rack in my home in Niagara Falls, Canada. You can call me The Hook, everyone else does.
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46 Responses to The Hook: Certified 100% Canadian Loser.

  1. davidprosser says:

    No-one is a loser who can entertain so many with a superb blog.
    No-one is a loser who can make so many friends so easily.
    You’re Canadian, they don’t do losers.

  2. Mark Myers says:

    And you have us waiting with bated breath for the underwear story. That is an impressive list of mis-accomplishments. Maybe we can chip in and renovate your seedy train tunnel.

  3. Kay says:

    I love your writing and always look forward to your blog. If your life was perfect, what would there be to write about? And you can’t fall out of a train tunnel and break your arm.

  4. Theresa says:

    You’re not a loser in my eyes Hook! I look forward to your “insights” daily!
    I’d say you bring more people happiness than you realize!
    You just keep going for it Hook! Believe! (as Josh Grogan would sing)! Look at Shantelle, she tried and tried to get a show concept toward parenting for years and was turned down in one fashion or another. Then finally, she got to do a couple of stints on one of your daily shows, after years of rejection!
    Have faith Hook! I have faith in you!
    Keep on writing!

  5. Purpleanais says:

    You made me laugh like a loon during my lunchtime break, so here’s to the losers of this world! May they all be like you 😉

  6. Catherine Townsend-Lyon, Author & Columnist says:

    Oh, how I’ve missed my “HOOK!!” LOL.

    I know exactly how you feel about breaking out into the publishing world as an author myself. Unless you are “rich and famous” already? “The New York Times” won’t even read one word from a page in our books unless we are. So I have found being a “loser” is far better than making it big and then those same people are just waiting to get pleasure as they “take you down” and watch you fall.

    So I will take loser any day as the grass is not always green on the “winner” side of things. So I will continue to write and publish for those who actually support me and enjoy what I put out.

    I actually came to say Hello and wish you and the girls a very Blessed and Happy Holiday Season Hook! Sorry that I have not been here in a long while…. Forgive ME? LOL.

    Love & Light,

  7. Nope. You’re not a loser. Just a guy who hasn’t yet been discovered (except by us unpaying readers).

  8. Marion Hardy says:

    IF you are a loser you are a wonderfully funny and talented one. What would we all write and tell stories about if we won all the time. I can trade you story for story Hook and if you ever give up I’m going to kick your ass!

    Your friend
    Marion (old but not a cougar).

  9. Diana Hilsendeger says:

    Don’t be so hard on yourself, my friend. You escapades, while noteworthy, are on a par with many of us who had dreams of excelling in our ideal endeavors, but have had to take a less than ideal job to provide for the essentials in life. While that tends to dampen the spirit, there is still joy in the privilege of putting a roof over the heads of our precious family. As far as I am concerned, the Beatles got it right – love is all you need.

  10. List of X says:

    I think that things are definitely going in the right direction – unlike your experience in school, you are now getting tons of female attention, and you’re now the one who gets to say no and send the opposite sex into the friend zone (or “guest zone”, to be more accurate.
    And you get money from them for doing that.

  11. Rosemary says:

    Well, I don’t think you are a loser. But I’ve told you that before. However, I do have to say that sometimes the slide to the bottom is way more fun than the climb to the top. 😉 Keep up the good work, Hook. You’ve got a small army waiting for your next blog.

  12. PM says:

    You’re better than most of the people who write about TV….

  13. loveofmomo says:

    Wow! Really Awesome…. Even if you say or maybe are😅 A Loser! Your blogs are very entertaining.

  14. You give a new meaning to the term “loser.” I think you have redefined the word to actually mean “very funny and talented writer.”

  15. Austin says:

    Remember, Hook, no man is a loser who has friends. 🙂

  16. Kara Post-Kennedy says:

    The real losers are people who use laundry baskets as luggage, let’s face it. This is very funny, but I know you know what I am thinking…

  17. Tara says:

    Okay so, I read this the other day when I was supposed to be going to work at the restaurant, where I have been trapped in the service industry since I was 12 years old. If you do the math, that’s 35 years. THIRTY FIVE… YEARS… waiting tables, serving people, and bartending. I swore six ways to Sunday that I wouldn’t end up this way. But, alas, here we are. I wanted to have the time to sit and write a thoughtful response to your post, so I waited until today. And today is here, and… I’ve had too much coffee and have a shit ton of multitasking ahead of me and I’m at a loss for words. I could tell you you’re not a loser, but you have committed to that label and so my protest would be met with a nonchalant thank you and you would file that away under well-intentioned compliments from that poor, ill-informed lady. Still, I point out that YOU have just 3 shy of 3,600 readers. I repeat – 3 THOUSAND, 6 HUNDRED readers. I have 57. Or 56, if I lose another one today. And you can say size isn’t everything, and I’d say, nay, nay. It is a daily testament to the impact you have, and you continue to reach and entertain many readers. I wish you could find the “success” you’re seeking, because I understand the supernatural need to reach that goal. That you keep it real is what keeps you sane… because we all know how hard it is to break through in a place that is filled with mediocre and incompetent and void-of-any-real-talent writers that have clogged the industry that was once so sacred. Don’t give up. I won’t, if you don’t.

  18. curvyroads says:

    You, dear Robert, are NOT a loser! How would you have legions of blog fans if you weren’t creative and entertaining? I hope you and your lovely family have a wonderful Christmas!

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