Where’s The Hook Been?

You’ve probably been noticing a lack of Hook in your virtual diet.

Symptoms include but are not limited to:

  •  Cranium lethargy.
  •  Sore joints (not the type you roll and which are soon to be legal in Canada) and aching muscles.
  •  Blurred vision.
  •  Feelings of severe depression and anxiety with a capital “ANX”.
  •  Nausea.
  •  Diarrhea. (But keep that symptom to yourself.)
  •  And in extreme cases… the will to keep on living even thought your life sucks rocks.

The truth is, I’ve tried writing a new post a million times (okay, my math may be a bit off, just go with it) but I just don’t have the ambition. My creative engine is as cold as Melania Trump’s nether region since the public became aware of the “Stormy front” that’s been hitting the White House.

You see, friends… well, the truth is, my mother is lying in a hospital bed battling bladder cancer that has crept into her bones. The prognosis is clean-cut though impossible to accept: she will not survive. Mom has held on for two weeks now; she’s been stronger than me, to be honest.

I could write volumes on my often tumultuous relationship with my mother but I’m not up to writing at all, so now that I’ve provided you with an explanation for my absence, I’m going to attempt to get back to my life. Such as it is.

The weight has been unbearable, especially when I think of what I’ve lost in the past few years, but others carry far more weight and have done so for far longer so who am I to complain?

By the way, I need to publicly acknowledge my beautiful bride for being my rock; she’s been the best damn daughter-in-law anyone ever had as well. Watching Mom slowly fade away has stirred a lot of painful memories in my wife but she keeps going with a smile and a will of iron.

You’ll see me tweeting occasionally. (We all have our coping mechanisms. Mine happens to be cheaper than booze, smokes and pharmaceuticals.)

See you in the lobby, kids…

I’m trying to hang in there, I swear.


POSTSCRIPT: Ironically, WordPress has just informed me that this lame-ass excuse for a post is actually #1,000 in the annals of Hook history. (I’m so glad I spelled “annals” right.)

I know this hasn’t been my best work, but enjoy, you filthy animals…

1,000 Posts

About The Hook

Husband. Father. Bellman. Author of The Bellman Chronicles. Reader of comic books and observer and chronicler of the human condition. And to my wife's eternal dismay, a mere mortal and non-vampire. I'm often told I look like your uncle, cousin, etc. If I wore a hat, I'd hang it on a hat rack in my home in Niagara Falls, Canada. You can call me The Hook, everyone else does.
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57 Responses to Where’s The Hook Been?

  1. I completely understand the ‘zero motivation’ to blog, I’ve been there probably for the past six months, barely on Twitter, and Facebook, just basically check-ins. Too much shit going on around the home front, stuff I can’t blog about, so mentally my brain is fried.
    I’m very sorry to hear about your health, I hope things start to perk up for you. Also sending you strength to cope with your mother’s illness. hugs my blogging friend.

  2. Loretta Hassler says:

    You’re doing better than you think at handling such a sad situation, friend. Accept and hold on to that love and strength from your wonderful wife (what a gift to have each other during these life passages). You have many virtual friends with you, also.
    Thanks and congrats on getting your feelings out there in your uniquely humorous way! Hugs and more hugs..won’t make the wife angry by sending kisses

  3. I am so sorry. You have had more than your share of loss. Take care of yourself and know we are all rooting for you and your mom. Hugs to all. (Even when you are sad and depressed you kick up some humor. You are a trouper!)

  4. Cancer is a fucking bitch! You won’t hear (see) me cuss much but when it comes to cancer all my filters are off. I was only a kid (from 10-12) when I spent 2 years watching what you are watching. It doesn’t matter if you are a 12, 32 or 62 year old kid, your Mother will always be your Mother. That one person in the world that you have been connected to like no other from the beginning. You will always need her in some way. She gave you life. Now you have to watch hers fade away in a horrendous way.

    Like I said, cancer is a fucking bitch. Do what you have to do, or don’t do what you can’t, to get through the best you can. Know that we will be right here when you want or need us and that we care.

    Hugs to you, your bride and your lovely daughter.

  5. markbialczak says:

    I’m with you in spirit from across the border and down the New York State Thruway a bit, Hook. Your ability to show graciousness and humor while shouldering your part in your mom’s illness is quite amazing, but not surprising to those of us who follow your life here. Best to you, your rock/bride and your battling mom.

  6. Kay says:

    Thank you for sharing. Loving thoughts, positive vibes and cyberhugs coming your way. Your fans will be right here waiting anytime you can post. You’re the best!

  7. I’m so sorry, Hook. Nothing I can say will help… but I’m sending a great big (virtual) hug to you and yours. ❤

  8. davidprosser says:

    I’m really sorry for your news Robert and also for bothering you with the message on twitter this morning but I was worried. It’s nice to see you despite the circumstances butg we’ll be here if you have to leave for a while.There are always email addresses if you need to talk or think we can help.

  9. jblondie says:


    I’m so sorry to hear this….

    It’s an interesting relationship…mother and child. Your sense of humor is even fantastic when depressed though. So hey, you have at least one redeeming quality 🙂 Take care of yourself and know that the World of WordPress has enjoyed your musings for a long time.

  10. This sucks. I lost my mum to cancer. You and your mum have my heartfelt wishes.

  11. Thinking of you Robert. Each day with your Mum is even more precious now.

  12. Robert, we are here with you. My relationship with my mother was complicated, so no need to explain. Facing the immanent loss of a parent, no matter the relationship, rocks one’s world. (Both of mine passed in 2012). Hang in there as best you can. My heart goes out to you (and your family).

  13. I’m sorry to hear about your mother. She’s a fighter, like you said she’s stronger than you. Take care of yourself and your mother.

  14. Marion Hardy says:

    All I can say is thinking of you and your mom and family and sending big big hugs. As long as I see a few tweets I can hang on until you are ready to resume writing again.

  15. Doug in Oakland says:

    Just know that you are an excellent blogger and a damn fine human being, and I will read whatever you come up with whenever you get around to blogging it.

  16. My prayers go out to you, your wife, and Mom.

  17. I’m going to hold you all in a positive light for healing, hope & peace while you forge on through this difficult time. Sucking rocks is not for pussies, so I know you can handle whatever is thrown your way. Keep your humor at the forefront of this battle and slay whatever darkness comes your way ❤
    Ps. I laughed out loud at "My creative engine is as cold as Melania Trump’s nether region since the public became aware of the “Stormy front” that’s been hitting the White House."

  18. Theresa says:

    I’m so sorry you have to witness this Hook. I’ve been there with my Mother. But just know that she is so fortunate to be surrounded with a wonderful daughter-in-law and her son. She’s very aware of it my friend. That’s all we can do is be there and let her know how much she is loved. I’m thinking and praying for you my friend! God love you all!

  19. adamjasonp says:

    I’m with Michelle on this one; cancer is a bitch! I could give those cells the double finger, but that wouldn’t actually help, so sending you a hug instead.

    Don’t worry about posting. You do what you have to do. You’re not alone in this.

  20. curvyroads says:

    Hugs and love to your family, my friend. It’s hard losing your mother, despite whatever relationship challenges you may have had (I share that particular situation, you may recall), so I am glad you have your lovely bride as your rock, and your lovely daughter to keep you on your parental toes. We will be here when you feel like sharing. Xoxo

  21. First~ Congrats on #1000 Robert! That is awesome! I am nowhere in the vicinity of #200 let alone 1000 posts. Maybe someday.. *sigh*
    Second…so sorry you are dealing with things with your mother. I have had issues with my mother for the last 30 years. Well.. most of my life, but the last 12 years have been just awful! I go 2 to 3 years at a time without speaking to her. She is toxic and I have to keep her at arms length to keep myself and the sanity of my family. Enough on that.
    Third, so glad you have such awesome support from your other half. It makes all the difference in the world. I wouldn’t have gotten through all of my good and bad without my hubby.
    You will get back on the proverbial horse of writing, I’m sure!
    See ya in the lobby!! 😘<3

  22. StillWaters says:

    Many big wet hugs (it’s foggy today) from the East Coast. You have wonderful support from your rock/bride and your daughter, as well as your public on this here Hinterland Hinternet. Take care of yourself.

  23. Tara says:

    I’m coming in late on the comments, but i still wanted to say how sorry I am for this difficult time you’re going through. Complicated or not – she’s still your mom and I can’t even begin to imagine how you are processing all of this. My heart goes out to you, and also to your wife as she processes this in a whole different way, and to your daughter as well. You are in my thoughts. Virtual hugs to you all. ❤

  24. Sorry to learn about your mom. It is a process that you will need your strength and, yes, your sense of humor.

    See you in the lobby, the funny books, and in the annals. Well, maybe not the annals.

  25. jlheuer says:

    No explanation necessary ( though I am glad you did for I was fearing the worst, like you moved to the US and became a Republican). I think we all check out from our normal routine and go somewhat brain fuzzy when things like this hit. We will see you in the lobby eventually. Take care.

  26. Ankur Mithal says:

    Sorry to hear about your situation. And admire your courage in being able to share such personal feelings on your blog. Take care!

  27. Gee Hook, where to start. When I heard about Kate Spade’s death, I though I’d better check on you.Sorry I didn’t come by sooner.
    I’d walked away from news, and most of social media because how ugly and vicious humans seem to have gotten. Just had enough, not worth the effort to try glue ideas together, and went outside while the weather wasn’t too severe – excessive heat and humidity in summer here.
    My mom was toxic, but as she aged, I tried. You have to. It is complex
    Family member living with bladder cancer – that’s a brutal one and they can’t stop it. But you were there. That’s enough. Glad you have wife and daughter to support and need you.
    Make peace and comfort wrap warmly around you and yours.
    You know many are holding you in their thoughts

  28. Doug in Oakland says:

    I saw this and thought of your daughter, and you know, she just might be onto something:
    “In a world that is scary and hard to endure, if you make art at all you’re a part of the cure.”
    Then I found out that Sara Bareilles is my homegirl, from Eureka California, and I’ve been watching this kind of obsessively ever since. Anyway, here it is, although your daughter has probably already seen it:

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