When things get bad in our lives, I mean really bad, we just can’t see the good, so we certainly can’t recognize that what we’re afraid of may actually be a blessing in disguise.
It will come as no shock to anyone that I’m a ginormous Whovian (that’s someone who loves the British sci-fi masterpiece, Doctor Who, for you Muggles) and so I wish to share a quote from this brilliant series that I think will be helpful and should easily fill a paragraph.
“Let me tell you about scared. Your heart is beating so hard I can feel it through your hands. There’s so much blood and oxygen pumping through your brain it’s like rocket fuel.
Right now you could run faster and you can fight harder. You can jump higher than ever in your life and you are so alert it’s like you can slow down time.
What’s wrong with scared? Scared is a superpower! Your superpower!”
If you naysayers still think science fiction is a lesser genre, you’re just jerks. Please click away now. If you’re still here then let’s chat about the things that terrify us, shall we? I’m not talking about centipedes in your sink or a group of young punks blocking your walking path to work.
No, I’m interested in the things that horrify some of us so much we’re willing to end it all just to make the fear vanish. Growing old alone. Or just growing old. Not finding true love or even just someone to help fill the hours of our days. Cancer or a dozen other diseases. Homelessness. Of course, this is the tip of the iceberg. After all, fear is a very personal thing; what chills you to your core may not do so for me.
But we can all stand united in our desire to give fear the bird. “Coward, take this coward’s hand and together we’ll fight the dragon” and all that.
Without going into detail, I spent enough time with him to know that fear is what drove my friend to take his life and that, more than anything else, will haunt me for the rest of my days. If he had only called me or my wife, if he had only reached out, we would’ve told Ronnie that we would take his hand and keep him safe from the dragon.
But he didn’t. (Though I’m not judging him for it.)
And so here we are.
It can be paralyzing, but fear has no power on its own. If you don’t feed it, it withers and dies. But if you use it properly it can propel you further than any almost any force in the world, with the exception of love, of course.
Yes, I’m being a bit simplistic, but it’s me, what did you expect? My logic is sound nevertheless. I hope it serves you well.
See you in the lobby, friends…