This one is going to be extremely difficult for me to write so it’s going to be brief but here goes…
#56: Your Father.
Maybe you refer to him as “The Old Man” or “Pops” (if you exist in a black-and-white film). But whatever moniker you choose to bestow upon him, your progenitor should be one of the people in your life whose judgement is always first and foremost in your mind. And why wouldn’t he be?
If you’re female them your dad helps you form an image of the perfect mate, apparently. Personally, I’ve always found this theory icky but millions of humans subscribe to it so who am I to argue? And there’s no denying a good father will show his daughter qualities like integrity, honor, respect and of course, understanding, that she’d be foolish not to seek out when she’s ready to enter the dating arena.
And for males the father figure is key to developing a non-douchey personality. A good man will teach his charge to:
- Be honest with himself and others.
- To do the right thing. Always. Regardless of the cost.
- Always own his mistakes and most importantly, accept their value.
- Respect his romantic and sexual partners.
- Be accepting of others, regardless of race, creed and what-not. Even if they like wearing socks with sandals or the Kardashians.
- A million other lessons I’m not thinking of right now.
The truth is, I didn’t have the childhood I deserved. Of course, neither did billions of others – but they have my permission to bitch about on their blogs if they like.
As for me, I may not be able to speak from experience but I know that if you love your father you’ll consider him when and if suicide ever crosses your mind.Fortunately, I was blessed to have one of the finest men I’ve ever known become my father-in-law; John Fisher helped me become a better father and man in general.
Reach out to the man who helped raise you and if he’s done his job right, you won’t ever have to fear his judgement. I can only hope that I’m a better source of wisdom and understanding than my own patriarch was and that my daughter will never have to hesitate when it comes to reaching out to her “Skippy” for whatever she might need. Like cash. But not breakfast, lunch or dinner. Unless she wants Wendy’s, that is.
See you in the lobby, kids…