100 Reasons To Not Kill Yourself: #58.

One of the greatest challenges we face as human beings (besides learning to work the remote) is discovering our place in the world.

To be clear, I’m not interested in launching a metaphysical discussion today. No, today we’re focusing on geography not philosophy. 

#58: Your “Spot”.

For Sheldon Cooper his preferred location on the couch is the “single point of consistency” in an ever-changing world. Oh sure, he rambles on about cross breezes and views of the television from his spot, but at the end of the day he just feels “right” while in that position in the universe. Sheldon may just be a fictional character (my apologies to those of you who believe otherwise) but his wisdom, intentional or not, is priceless.

Sometimes all we need to get us through a storm is a place to hunker down and wait it out.


If you’re like me and have been blessed with IBS, your spot is in the bathroom where you literally sit to wait out a shit storm. Yes, this turned dark and icky quick, but if I don’t laugh at my life I’ll spend my days crying – blogging – about it and no one wants that.

It may be your position in the living room or at the kitchen table, but having a locale to call your own can make all the difference in the world. Sometimes that spot won’t be in your home at all.

I hang my bellman’s uniform in Niagara Falls, a city known for it’s breathtaking views that make you want to urinate every twelve seconds. That fact notwithstanding, there a few residents of Niagara that have found outdoor spots to call their own. These spots offer both a serene view of the Falls and unbelievably, peace of mind among the masses with their cameras, devices, and screaming spawn who continually ask why the family didn’t choose to visit a Disney park rather than “a giant hole in the ground filled with falling water”.

Needless to say, these spots are invaluable and not easily located. But they’re worth seeking out. Fortunately, the entire Niagara region has thousands of similar spots and while they don’t all offer views of falling water, they’re every bit as calming and breathtaking.

Of course, you may be cut from a different cloth and prefer the hustle and bustle (whatever the hell that means) of the big city to help you find your center. If so, get thee to a metropolis teeming with mammals and gas guzzling, carbon monoxide spewing vehicles and get your crowd on!

Some of us prefer the track, the gym, our favorite eatery or even the theater or movieplex. Wherever you feel most at home is where you need to be when the metaphorical walls start closing in. It was his day off but one of my bellman colleagues, Peter, decided to join us at work the morning after we finally received word of Rockin’ Ronnie’s ultimate fate.

“I just needed to be here with the boys.” was the only explanation he could offer but it was more than enough. He knew where his spot needed to be on that day and even though the circumstances were tragic he nevertheless found solace in that place.

Being in his spot got Peter through a horrible day. Find your spot and hunker down there whenever you need to, for as long as you need to. Sometimes, not often, but sometimes, it’s a simple as that.

See you in the lobby, friends… 


About The Hook

Husband. Father. Bellman. Author of The Bellman Chronicles. Reader of comic books and observer and chronicler of the human condition. And to my wife's eternal dismay, a mere mortal and non-vampire. I'm often told I look like your uncle, cousin, etc. If I wore a hat, I'd hang it on a hat rack in my home in Niagara Falls, Canada. You can call me The Hook, everyone else does.
This entry was posted in Hotel Life and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

15 Responses to 100 Reasons To Not Kill Yourself: #58.

  1. Good one Robert.
    As long as Hubby and I are together, we can face anything. Words aren’t necessary. Just knowing he’s there is enough.

  2. Mark Myers says:

    Sheldon let his MeeMaw sit in his spot. Do you share your IBS spot?

  3. We all have a spot, Hook. I think to remind folks of that sanctuary is the essence of public service, Well done.

  4. I love water. During a very troubled time in my life I went to the beach for a few days with one of my girlfriends. I found the greater the distance from home the more light I felt. I had a great time near the water and didn’t feel any weight or burden. On the drive home I could actually feel weight physically settling back down on my shoulders. There is power to a happy spot.

  5. davidprosser says:

    A fictional character, I shall have to abandon my Bazinga teeshirts now, I’m sad.

  6. Doug in Oakland says:

    I’ve almost always looked at my home as sanctuary, and that idea has served me well, it’s just sometimes been the whole having a home part that’s been difficult, especially in the rental market here in the east bay. But in my home, I definitely do have my spots, usually cluttered with guitar and computer stuff…

  7. curvyroads says:

    Such a great reason, Robert! My spot is in the mountains… 😀

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s