The Hook Goes Crazy (For a Working Mom) And Bits of Other Business…

The lovely, talented and overworked Jessica Stilwell has graciously allowed me to play in her sandbox once more; just click HERE to explode with laughter.

And I don’t blame you if you’re laughing at the sandbox comment; it doesn’t seem to work as well when an adult – or in my case, a man-child – uses it. But as usual, I digress….

Jessica has been stricken with a powerful strain of irony: her blogging journey began when she implemented a successful tough love campaign directed at her kids that caught the world’s attention, but now she finds herself juggling blogging, a psychologically taxing full-time job and being a mom to the children that inspired her in the first place!

Since she’ll never let her kids down, I’m proud to lend a hand whenever needed. And you can too! Just click over to Jessica’s page, see what all the fuss is about and decide if you have something to contribute that aligns with her blogging vision.

It really is that simple. As for me and my world…..

As it turns out, today is my birthday. I entered this world kicking and screaming forty-three years ago today.

And as my wife and others can attest, I haven’t shut up since.

I don’t really know what to say about my life that I haven’t said already; ironically, I’m writing more than ever these days, but I have little to say when it comes to the subject of my own existence. However, like I always say, when in doubt, rip off another writer.

I’m currently reading Redefining Success: Still Making Mistakes by W. Brett Wilson, a true modern-day Canadian Renaissance man and personal hero of mine and in it, Brett uses “Five Lists”: lists of five items that are unique to his existence and success as a well-rounded human being. I hope, in the incredibly rare chance that he actually sees this, Brett realizes that my poaching of his idea is a homage rather than a crime.

Regardless, I’m going to do it anyway. Here then are a few custom-made Lists of Four.

Better safe than sorry, right?

Four Wins.

  1. My mortal form is currently and has always been drug and alcohol-free.
  2. I have been one-half of a winning team for 18 years, which is quite an accomplishment in this day and age, it seems.
  3. My child is more beautiful, talented and ambitious than I have ever been and although I attribute that to her mother, I’m still going to count this as a win for my side.
  4. After years of dreaming, there is a published book with my name on it.

Four Losses/ Regrets in Life.

You know what? I’m not doing this. Sure I’m still frustrated by my inability to get myself booked on Steven and Chris or Breakfast Television Toronto, but guess what I’ve realized? Regret is wet cement; it holds you in place while life pass you by. In the end, regret grows a cancer in your soul that threatens to consume your entire existence.

Four Great Days.

  1. The day I met my wife. Neither one of us realized it at the time, but we were destined for greatness.
  2. My wedding day. We had sealed our commitment to each other long before that moment, but it was a milestone nonetheless. And we had Chinese food afterwards, which is always kick-ass.
  3. Any Christmas Day in my childhood. My mom never let me down. Not once.
  4. The birth of my daughter. I had the easy part – I don’t know how you ladies push another human being out of your bodies and stay sane – but it was the proudest moment of my life.

Four People I Want to Dine With.

  1. David Chilton. He is by far, the coolest rich guy I know – and yes, I know a few – and not just because he actually returns my calls. Although, I have to say, I doubt Kevin O’Leary would push the pause button on his day to mentor a nobody like me. If I could channel 1% of David’s creativity, business-savvy and humanity, I’d be pleased with myself. While watching him on Dragons’ Den, I can’t help but note how fulfilled he appears and it gives me something to strive for in my own life. I’d love to be able to thank him personally for his friendship and warmth. Of course, I’d still let him pay.
  2. Jesse Jackson. Don’t ask me why, but he’s always been one of my heroes. I could listen to the man read the phone book and be inspired.
  3. My grandmother. She’s been gone for far too long. Forget the rules of our existence for a moment. Who doesn’t miss their grandma? Of course, grandmas cook, they don’t actually eat, but I’d sure love to try to get her to sit still for a moment.
  4. My wife. I miss my wife. Anyone who has been married with children gets this, right?

I could go on, but my self-reflection meter is in the red as it is today. If at all possible, enjoy yourselves today folks. You deserve it.

MEANWHILE, WITHIN THE PAGES OF THE BOOK OF TERRIBLE: I riff on being 43.  Sounds simple, I know. Trust me, it wasn’t.

I mentioned this once already, but my blog, my rules:

Just when I thought they’d hit the ceiling, the overlords of the Niagara Falls Comic Con decided to totally blow my mind and book Adam West!  That’s right, Mayor West of television’s Family Guy will be hanging out in my neck of the woods soon.

And oh yeah, he played some guy in a cape for awhile too….

If you’re a geek like me – but somehow still cool – and you’re going to be in the Falls June 8 & 9, check it out.

It's Nerdrific!

PLEASE READ THIS BLOG: You’ll be moved by MJ’s story. Her life story – and that of her daughter Grace – is one of hope, the power of family and the healing power of laughter.

About The Hook

Husband. Father. Bellman. Author of The Bellman Chronicles. Reader of comic books and observer and chronicler of the human condition. And to my wife's eternal dismay, a mere mortal and non-vampire. I'm often told I look like your uncle, cousin, etc. If I wore a hat, I'd hang it on a hat rack in my home in Niagara Falls, Canada. You can call me The Hook, everyone else does.
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82 Responses to The Hook Goes Crazy (For a Working Mom) And Bits of Other Business…

  1. Lady Lovely says:

    Happy Birthday! Love the sandbox comments to use, it’s one of my favorite sayings….”I don’t play well with others in the sandbox”

  2. raisingdaisy says:

    Happy Birthday Hook! I love how you always sound like a newlywed – VampireLover is a very lucky woman, and you are both so lucky to have found each other. And I totally agree with what you said about regrets – you live a good life, my friend! Many more happy birthdays to you! 😀

  3. umm….HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! May today and this year be filled with blessings beyond belief. You deserve it!
    You’re sandbox comment made me spit my coffee out. See…not always red wine:) I love your 4 things in each category. All of them.
    You don’t look at day of 35. Ok, actually I don’t know what you look like but I’m guessing no older than 35.
    Enjoy your day.

  4. filledandfooled says:

    Happy Birthday!! I like that your anniversary and wife’s birthday are so close to yours! Its a month of celebration in your house, yay! I keep my fingers crossed for you to accomplish your goals! For me just making the goals is tough.

  5. renxkyoko says:

    You’re one great guy, Mr. Hook. Anyone who still loves his wife so much after 18 years makes you a great man.

  6. Jennifer says:

    More Happy Birthdays from me 🙂 and regrets are useless. Don’t regret what has or hasn’t happened, it is time to learn and reflect, and grow!! Love the other post too 🙂

  7. denmother says:

    Happy birthday, Hook!

  8. Christine says:

    Happy Birthday, Hook!! I hope it was absolutely fantastic for you!

  9. JackieP says:

    Happy Birthday to you! Happy birthday to you! Haaaapppyyyy birrrrthhhhdayyyy dear Hookster! Happppy birthdayyyy to YOUUUUUU! That’s me singing. My birthday present is that you can’t hear me sing. haha!

  10. Happy Birthday, Hook!! Wonderful post. I hope you had a fantastic day. You deserve it!

  11. Happy Birthday, Hook! Hope it was a great day. You’re so young!! (spoken by a woman in her mid-fifties).

  12. List of X says:

    Happy birthday! May your life always be interesting enough to blog about! 🙂

  13. Hip, hip, hooray…. It’s the Hook’s birthday…! 🙂
    Many happy returns, my dear Hook… 🙂
    I love this post; it is soooooo uplifting.
    “Four people I want to dine with.” No: 4 is especially good. (Not good that you don’t get to dine with her, but because you want to…)

  14. Kanerva says:

    Happy Birthday Hook! I still have my fingers crossed (and the other bits too) that you get your playtime in Steven and Chris’s sandbox – their loss! Sandboxes are fun, until you start discovering where all the sand ends up 😉

  15. TBM says:

    Hook! Happy Birthday! I’m with you on regrets. I have them–oh boy do I have regrets. But I can’t focus on them. I like to focus on the positive. Once I start to focus on the negative I get sucked into and have a hard time resurfacing. That sounds dramatic–lets not be dramatic. Have a wonderful day–filled with comics and cake.

  16. mabukach says:

    Happy Birthday, Hook! Inspirational stuff. Can’t wait to see your pics with Batma…er, Adam West.

  17. mairedubhtx says:

    Happy Birthday, Robert! I hope you get the day off and I hope you get a nice dinner with Jackie. You deserve that. Plus you have a lot of pluses in your column, more than the four you listed. Your blogs are certainly pluses. I for one am glad to count you as a blogging friend. All the best to you today and throughout the coming year.

  18. Coop says:

    Happy Birthday Hook!
    As a father of four, I can truly relate to #4 of people you want to dine with…

  19. jlheuer says:

    I hope the birthday Gods smiled upon you and you didn’t have to move luggage but if you did, I hope your tips were huge. I hope you didn’t forget to wear your “It’s My Birthday” button.

  20. Kozo says:

    Happy Birthday, Hook. Never forget how blessed you are. Just come back to this post and read your lists of four if you ever start to doubt. {{{Hugs]}} Kozo

  21. MissFourEyes says:

    Happy happy (belated) birthday, Hook! I hope you had a wonderful day. The way you talk about your wife is so sweet, makes me ‘aww’ every time

  22. Pyx says:

    Aren’t you one of the lucky ones – when they decided to make big boy Superman Underpants in 43 year old size. Happy belated!

  23. MJ says:

    I love this post. So positive and affirming. And I totally agree about regret…it’s carcinogenic…

    • The Hook says:

      You’d know all about that, wouldn’t you? You walk a minefield loaded with life-changing decisions every day, don’t you?
      Thanks for dropping by, MJ.

  24. wisejourney says:

    What a lovely warm post. Thank you and oh…happy b day 2 u too

  25. Happy Birthday, Hook! I’d like to say that you’re a couple of years older than me, but as you’re not, I can’t! And I agree about not having regrets… keep moving forward!

  26. robincoyle says:

    A very hooky birthday to you! Let me guess . . . Chinese food for dinner tonight?

  27. robincoyle says:

    I always have trouble getting my “credentials verified” on Jessica’s blog. Any tricks i should know about? I can’t leave a comment over there. Very frustrating.

    • The Hook says:

      I assume you’re using your WordPress username?
      You can also log in under anonymous and it will leave your gravatar anyway. I think she’s beginning to realize that Blogger isn’t exactly user-friendly for outsiders..
      Keep trying, Robin!

      • robincoyle says:

        I am using my WordPress info. It worked in the past, but today I couldn’t get through the firewall and gave up. It is too bad because she is delightful. I think I unfollowed her months ago because of it.

    • No…blogger isn’t as user friendly for comments. The blog is set up for anyone to comment, but when I took the ‘prove your not a robot’ thing away I was receiving A LOT of spam. Not that Brazilian wax’s and erotic toys don’t peek my interest, I just had no need for the Viagra or wigs, so I increased the security.
      I know you are not a robot….that’s what matters:)

      • robincoyle says:

        Two strange things here. I signed up to follow your blog ages ago, but don’t get email notices about your posts anymore. I was reminded about your blog via The Hook’s post.

        Second thing . . . when I was getting your posts, commenting would be a struggle and then poof, my comment would go through. Other times, I wasted a bunch of time trying to comment. Maybe I unfollowed you because of that. I don’t know. I forget so much these days.

      • I noticed I lost a follower a while back. I went through all the stages of grief.
        I will look into the email thing. Don’t hold your breath for me to be able to figure it out, but I will try.
        Damn blogger. I would switch to Word Press but seeing my stats increases my self-esteem so I don’t want to start over. 🙂

  28. unfetteredbs says:

    Happy Birthday Sir! I love your lists of four. I can hear the “love” in your words for your wife and daughter. I totally dig that. Being married 18 years– it is huge. Chinese food– did you elope?

    • The Hook says:

      No, we simply had a City Hall civil ceremony, then we hit a Chinese buffet a few cities away!

      • unfetteredbs says:

        We eloped too. Only we did it in a little old lady’s condo. Then went out for Italian dinner. We both have longevity in our marriage. Hi five !!

  29. Rohan 7 Things says:

    Happy birthday buddy 🙂 Very cool idea with the lists, and I liked how you blew off the regrets bit like candles on a birthday cake! Who needs it right!

    And this “I don’t know how you ladies push another human being out of your bodies and stay sane” I bet that one gets all the girls! 😉

    Have a great day! All the best 🙂


    • The Hook says:

      I hope that line doesn’t get any girls; I’m married so their attention would be wasted on me!
      Thanks for dropping by, Rohan!

      • Rohan 7 Things says:

        Haha, oh I know that! Didn’t want to get you into any trouble, I just meant generally speaking. I’ll have to give it whirl, watch out ladies there’s a new pickup line in town!! >.<

        Oh and drug and alcohol free hi fives, I don't mind the odd beer but I don't go nuts 🙂


      • The Hook says:

        Let me know how it works out, Rohan!

  30. Best line and sane outlook on life ever: ” Regret is wet cement; it holds you in place while life pass you by” (say this to your kid a lot…she’ll groan, but much later she’ll secretly remember it and believe)
    Grandma – great choice. Mine didn’t cook – except some very old fashion candy each Christmas her mother taught her to make (nobody remembers the recipe now, sad face). But she was a writer, loved history, and told great stories – always fun for me….the rest of the family just left us alone: the oldest and youngest – quite a pair

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  33. Playing in other people’s sandboxes does sound kind of odd but seing you have a bit of a crush it’s understandable!!!:) I was asked who I would like to write with, I think Kurt Cobain

  34. Since two positives undo a negative … please, just play along to assuage my conscience.

    To make up for being late …. and not because I forgot; oh yeah, you know; I forgot that you know that I did not forget …. I’ll wish you again – (hope you had a) Happy Birthday, Hook!


  35. Jo Bryant says:

    Sorry I missed your birthday Hook…but I sure hope it was a good one.

  36. Happy belated birthday!!

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